Antoinette M. Watkins writes under the pen name Johanna Sparrow and has been writing for over 21 years. She has published a variety of writings ranging from self-help books to children's stories. In these books, she tackles dealing with personal growth, relationships, conflict issues, and much more. She has used her expertise, knowledge, and experience to create a personal system that she has used since 1995. The "Heart Bruised Conscious Connection Renewal" (HBCRR) system helps in strengthening relationships.
In 2014, Johanna Sparrow wrote and released her first self-help book dealing with relational aggression through bullying, gossip, and lies. This book is titled Don't Tell the Milkman If You Don't Want Him to Tell the World. During that same year, she released two other self-help books combating the issue of conflict that affects one's sex life and the other on relationship commitment phobias. Titled The Elephant in the Bed and Sabotage, Commitment Phobias. Johanna Sparrow self-help books focus on relationship issues from both the male and female perspectives.
Antoinette M. Watkins was born November 22, 1969, and was raised in New Orleans, Louisiana. She now resides in San Antonio, Texas with her husband of twenty-seven years and their two adult kids. She majored in psychology and speech at UMUC in 1996.
She worked as a freelance writer and illustrator until releasing her first children's picture book through Xlibris in 2004 titled Silly Shoe Vol 2 under the pen name A. M. A. Watkins. She released a second book that same year titled Olive Turnip Vol. 4. She has wrote and illustrated off and on for other writers and did not release her next children's book on Amazon until 2014 called, Tank the Shy Turtle, written under the pen name Cookie Adams. Also, in 2014 she released Bigmouth Betty and Wormy Wiggly Mr. Ziggly under the pen name Cookie Crumbles. Johanna Sparrow is in the process of revising all of her children's books from 2004 and 2014. She will be introducing some new titles in 2018 and in the years to come.
Johanna Sparrow is a member of the Writers' League of Texaswww.writersleague.org/ and Authors Guild | authorsguild.net
Are you surrounded by fake love and friends? Do they claim to love you and would do anything for you, but tear you down behind your back? Snake-Like Relationships is all about learning how to make a clean break from the snakes in your life. Stop convincing yourself you need negative people in your life, you don't need fake love around you to be happy. Who wants to love a snake anyways? The sooner you cut these snake-like relationships off the better your life will be.
Life offers no sweet rewards when you’ve been hurt, but it does force you to face yourself. In a mirror of lies you’ve been told and you’ve told yourself, somehow convincing no one but you of their truth, you learn to let go of the past. You let go when your hands can no longer carry its secrets, you let go when you have given your all, and most importantly, you let go to be reborn. Decades of heartbreak has made me see myself, not my hurt or pain, but the beauty in me that’s always existed. The best me ever beneath the dust, rocks, and torment, finally rose up. I now see new colors in the world that once only offered a grey and black veil to look through. The colors pop like my old life and heartbreak is nowhere to be found.
I’ve done wrong, I’ve been hurt, and I’ve hurt others. A life of rejection, judgment, and heartbreak was normal to me. In 1979, I dove into a world of self-destruction—prostitution, drugs, and abuse—it kept me breathing. But I was long gone, a walking dead soul who attracted abuse, fear, and death at every turn. Each negative event in my life left a scar upon my onyx skin I couldn’t escape. I tried seducing death, but it played with me instead. As I’ve said before, “Death didn’t even want me.” I married for love and received abuse at the hands of a heroin addict.
In 2005, I got tired of the life I was living. I wanted out, so I cried to God for help. My journey of healing through faith, rebirth, and ministry hasn’t been easy, but it’s been worth it.
I want to share my healing with you like I shared my pain and darkest hours in “Helen’s Scars.” If I can find peace, rebirth, and healing through ministry, so can you!
Growing up with a sibling or siblings has its moments and can make for some pretty tense encounters when you are all together. Trying to see eye to eye when there is constant rivalry, jealousy, and envy destroys family moments. How do you deal with the sibling you are not competing with, but who seems to be competing with you? For starters you must learn how to convey the message of love and acceptance verses competition and jealousy to have the relationship you seek.
Changing your attachment style isn’t something most people want to think about, and what incentive do they have to do so. They’ve been doing things a certain way for very long, and it’s hard for many people to take an honest look at themselves. It’s no wonder your relationships aren’t working, or worse, they end before they’ve even begun. People who are in this position struggle with not knowing what they truly need from their partner, which leads them to feel a whirlwind of emotions that often fluctuate between highs and lows. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses in a relationship can help you alter your mental processes and gain an understanding of what makes a relationship flourish.Attachments are established during childhood and throughout early adulthood. Everything you know about the inner workings of relationships is predicated on the attachments you’ve formed throughout your life.
How you go about getting your needs met today may be no different than when you were a child. But knowledge of the four attachment styles can help improve your understanding of your and your partner’s needs.When you learn about your attachment style, you’ll understand what you need and how to get it. Also, you’ll understand more about your partner and the attachments they are connected to. Your attachment style may be the key to understanding your perspective on how relationships should work. Certain attachments can create misery that leads to insecurity and feelings of being unfulfilled. Are you constantly putting your desires before your partner’s needs? And are you expecting someone else to make you happy instead of realizing that happiness comes from within? Is your partner distancing him or herself from you?We all want happy, healthy relationships, but are you willing to take responsibility for unhealthy attachments you’ve created and make the necessary changes that will foster an unselfish and loving relationship? If your relationship is falling apart and you’re not sure why, you’re not alone. More people are starting to identify the negative attachments that were developed during childhood and the impact they’re having during adulthood. My goal is to help you understand the four types of attachments and how they can either hinder or improve your relationships.
You’ve been playing games in your relationship far too long and it’s about to cost you what you really you want: love. If you don’t pull it together and get a grip, you know you will be alone soon. Fearing rejection and abandonment, a person with the fearful-avoidant attachment style is passive-aggressive and has a hard time seeing their own worth. They question love and their actions are confusing to their partner.
This book discusses all four attachment styles, but highlights the fearful-avoidant partner.
Sabotage 1,2 and 3 now at your fingertips. You refuse to give up and let them go. Okay. Now, what’s next?
For starters, you must change the way you think when you’re in love with a commitment phobe because, unlike someone who’s looking for longevity in a relationship, the person you love is afraid of commitment. Therefore, they’ll use control and deception as manipulative tools to maintain distance in the relationship. Everything you do indicates you’re fully committed. That’s normally a wonderful thing, but for commitment phobes, that’s a problem.
In a strange way, you understand them and love their unpredictable ways. One moment, they’re cold; the next, it’s as if someone turned on the heater of love, and you’ve forgotten that you’re dealing with a commitment phobe.
If you really want to make your relationship work, you’ll have to meet them halfway. If you press them too hard for a change in behavior, they’ll keep their distance. Learn to back off and stop worrying. The less you stress, the more they’ll stress over you. That’s the first step to handling your commitment phobic lover. There are many other steps that ‘ll need to be taken, but the first step sets the tone and lets your partner know who’s in charge!
It doesn’t matter how fast or strong I get, I’ll never outrun her or be stronger than her. Mother is strong and has many lives. She keeps me as her servant and her bitch. I’m a mistake that she desperately tries to cover up. Mother would probably be ecstatic if I was a whore and a liar, but since I’m neither, she despises me. In time, you’ll come to know why I’ve decided to tell the world my tumultuous story.I wouldn’t recommend reliving an abusive past, but for the last forty-plus years, I’ve been living a lie. Daily, I’m finding broken pieces of myself scattered around because of how Mother and her sons shattered the real me. Now, I must put myself back together. I’ve beat myself up for staying in their lives far too long; hoping they’d eventually welcome, accept, and love me. But instead, I’ve continued to be used and abused. I’m often left with anger, rage, and thoughts of having their heads on a platter.Too much time has been wasted. I just want the world to know the true story of Ana Franken.
Rape or a sexual assault, for many, can be a shameful and embarrassing experience. There seems to be an ongoing battle to stop the misuse of force and sexual assault on another person. The truth is that anyone can be raped or suffer a sexual attack at the hands of someone they know or by a stranger. The face of a rape victim is never easily recognized and can be any gender and any age. No one class of people or gender is raped more than any others. The emotional state that a rape victim has to cope with on a daily basis—while still living and functioning in their day-to-day life as if nothing ever happened—is something that’s truly difficult to understand unless it has happened to you. Unless you have been raped, you may never understand how thousands of lives are altered each year.Dealing with trauma is never easy, especially when it stems from a rape or sexual assault. You should never blame yourself, but you do.
Dealing with trauma is never easy, especially when it stems from a rape or sexual assault. One can never blame oneself enough for something that was not one's fault. The hardest part of getting over a rape is self-blame, hurt, fear and the silent, yet deafening screams one can never get out of one's head. For many victims of sexual assault or rape, the pain can be deep, and the trauma may remain a secret for many years. The worst part of overcoming such an event is worrying about what others will think about you. Long after a rape or sexual assault has taken place, the suffering continues. I was also a victim of rape at one time, and have since become an overcomer.
Maybe you know someone who has overcome the trauma of rape or sexual assault. Maybe that person who’s still suffering is you. My hope is that today, you will start seeing yourself not as a victim but as an overcomer. Hands Off is all about overcoming rape or sexual assault and taking back your power. If I can overcome it, so can you!
The four relationship attachment styles are what people want to talk about nowadays, including me. I hope that shedding light on the four relationship styles will help you to understand your needs as well as your partner’s needs and build a stronger relationship. What does the Dismissive, Fearful, Anxious, and Secure partner look like in a relationship? If illustrated, would it make more sense? Would seeing your relationship style and behavior in action help you make changes? Could you be a super-magnet for drawing in the worst type of partners? Would it help you to understand what it means to have more than one relationship attachment style affecting your love life?
We’ll start with a look at the dismissive-avoidant partner paired with the other attachment styles, including itself. If you haven’t been able to see your relationship style in action or how it may be affecting the growth of your love life, now you can. This is the first illustrated look at your attachment style in action when it comes to your relationship. The visual aspect of seeing your behavior illustrated can help you make the necessary changes for a healthier and balanced attachment style.
Mildred had no complaints; not one. Yet everyone knew what was going on but her. She wondered how so many people could see the same thing but tell a different story. The only memory she retained was the love she had for a man that she eventually became to hate. Never in her wildest dreams would Mildred have thought that everything was all a lie. She’d been deceived, and her dignity stripped away. Her innocence and naivety about the world and those she cared about had made her an easy target. She was a victim until the end.
I knew my marriage was over after my wife caught me cheating on her again. But the cheating wasn’t the reason I ended our relationship. No, it wasn’t, and I told myself a million times that I would’ve stayed or tried to make things work with her if only she had kept her head on straight, which was all I wanted. But she became unglued. I’ve always seen my wife as a strong black woman never afraid of taking risk. Never one for falling apart, no matter the circumstances or roadblocks ahead. But I’ll tell you, the day I saw her fall apart was the day I saw she was no different than I was, human, and it was also the day I walked away. And now, looking back on it all, I regret it. My name is Allen Griff, and I took the love of my life for granted, and now my life is over.
Most, if not all, of my friends have heard of the old saying about the elephant in the room or even the pink elephant or white elephant in the room. But, did you know that they are all addressing a problem that no one wants to acknowledge, not even you? In relationships, the elephant in the room seems to be out of control. So, what do you do when the elephant leaves the room and climbs into your bed? I can surely tell you that when I had an elephant in my bed, it was awkward as hell, and my sex life was nonexistent. No matter what size bed you have, you will never have enough room to fit you and your significant other in comfortably. This book will help you to recognize what’s blocking your sex life and affecting your relationship as a whole. Now that you’ve got your eyes on the elephant in your bed, I want you to walk its big ass right out your front door and out of your life forever.
When issues get in the way of your love life you can say, the elephant has made it’s way to your bed. Romance is crushed, communication gone and affection out the window. Now the elephant is looking for attention. The problems within your relationship have hit an all-time high. The problems your relationship face is everywhere. Finding time for romance, love and sex has been replaced with silence, distance and a loss of interest.
Pretending your problems will go away and things will get better is laughable. Your relationship won’t get better if no one is addressing the elephant in the damn bed. Now that you’ve got your eye on the elephant in your bed, I want you to walk it right out of your front door and nail that baby shut.
Elephant in The Bed will help you recognize what’s blocking your sex life, so you can get back to having sex again!
The book is divided into five chapters, and each chapter serves a different purpose. Deals with a different pain.
A search to free oneself from drowning, Ingest considers how healing is interpreted by the perception of the pain afflicted.
Ingest takes readers through a journey of the most tumultuous experiences in life and helps them heal by “eating” up their pain. Ingesting your pain and hurt allows you to find peace from within and from those around you.
You put your heart and soul into a relationship, in hopes that you’ll remain together forever, until something or someone shook its foundation, causing you or your partner to quit your relationship. But why? Is it that easy for some people to suddenly walk away from a relationship they’ve invested in for years? And can a vested relationship be salvaged when someone is in the middle of quitting?
I Quit is all about these types of relationships coming to an end due to unfulfillment. It takes a look at five short story breakups from the beginning of their love to the crumbling of their relationship at the end. While some couples may have been together for decades, others only a few months before quitting on their relationship.
Quitting a relationship without warning is relatively normal, but for some, the quitting process can be rather cruel. One thing is clear, there’s no easy way to say I quit without at least one person walking away in pain. If you’ve ever wondered how some people process the painful termination of their relationships, you will gain insight from I Quit.
A black plague has landed on the doorsteps of low income black neighborhoods, and black men have been the major targets. Our black men’s blood is quickly filling the streets around the world, while the screams of their loved ones echo across every social media and news broadcast. Black executions aren’t hidden. They’re openly laid out to provoke even the most peaceful soul to rage. Isn’t that the plan? A true hunter baits his prey into attacking him so the kill can be justified when it was a planned execution all along. It’s as if white men await in the shadows for black blood.
The truth is being exposed, no matter how raw, uncut, and cold-hearted it is. Black men are being hunted down and executed regularly by overly eager cops who enjoy the hunt and kill of black life. What are we missing here? Why can’t we see this? Who truly gives a damn about black life? These cowards and racists have aligned and joined forces. Not against true crime, but against you, my black brother and sister, and we’re too damn distracted amid our demise to educate ourselves on how to combat it.
You are surrounded by fake love and attention. You are surrounded daily by the very people who claim to love you and would do anything for you, but who are tearing you down behind your back. Your relationship is fake, yet you don’t care. You’ve convinced yourself of somehow thinking those around you value your very existence, but they don’t care.Know who sits up in your face and that not everyone around you are black mambas—but cobras, vipers, anacondas, and the like, and their sneak attack is deadly. If you like being around people, chances are you got a few black mamas near you. If you love family reunions, chances are you have snakes and black mambas in your family. If you love your career and being around your friends and lovers, don’t mistake a missed strike for a love tap. My dear, you’ve been surrounded by black mambas and it’s time you get to safety.
Could it be your actions and behavior when it comes to sex and dating that is keeping you a one-night stand and preventing you from finding love? Don’t let a man see you as someone just to kick it with, only to forget you days later. Learn the dos and don’ts when it comes to finding love while avoiding the one-night stand dance of dating.